Style Clue 5: Clean and organizing your wardrobe at least twice a year. In the beginning of Spring and Fall. Yep, when the cold or warm season starts to show, give your wardrobe a makeover. Leave the clothes for that particular season more reachable, easy to be spotted. Go through everything you have, evaluate what you should keep or should sell/give/toss. Also check if there is any clothes that need some fixing like a missing button, a broken sole… And fix them before returning to your wardrobe. And yes, this is about clothes and accessories.
Or if don’t meditate, you can ask yourself anytime during the day. As often as you can. Breathing slowly and deeply with your eyes closed. So you can get your answers. From deep inside.
And the 3 questions are:
Who am I?
What do I want?
How can I serve/help? Or in another words: What is my purpose in life?
Listen openly to all the answers without interfering. Let them flow. Take a mental notice of them. Go deeper. With no fear. Just an opened heart and mind.
By the way…
I got those questions from a book I am currently reading called The Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga by Deepak Chopra and David Simon. (this is not an affiliate link.) Those are soul questions. And the deep, truthful answer to them are the key to shifting from the ego standing point to your spirit. It is the path to connect to your spiritual being and live your life honoring it. It is a way to be in touch with the fundamental essence of who you really are.
So, if you are wondering it, give it a shot.
For me, when I came across those questions in the book it was like wow! And it was because lately those are the questions I keep trying to get an answer for it. I am desperate to find my bliss, so I can follow it. And I think your bliss lives exactly where the answer for those 3 questions are.
I haven’t got the answers yet…
Actually, I probably have the answers, but I am still reluctant to pursue it because I still think I am no good at it. I guess my ego still dominates me. Sad but so true.
In any case, I will keep asking me those questions till I am fully convinced. Or until I start going with this blissful flow… regardless.
And how about you? Have you figure out what your bliss is?
Recently I realized for the first time something wonderful: that I do have my back. If I need me, some support, help I can totally count on myself. I am my own rock. And I realized that because when I most needed support and help (going through my B12 deficiency and Meno(pause) hell) and I couldn’t count on anyone but me, I did have my back. Woo-hoo!
All the way through.
It feels homy, cozy, warm, powerful.
It gives you confidence, encouragement, hope, resilience, strength.
Having said that, there is another less wonderful side to this, I believe, same coin: at times I can also be my worst enemy. That presents itself as that little voice inside that doesn’t think I am capable of or qualified enough or has a particular talent or what it takes to go for whatever I aiming for or dreaming about. That inner leash that keeps me prisoner, that bitch who doesn’t let me go, rock’n roll. That part of myself that clearly doesn’t have my back. Instead, holds it, tight.
It feels scary, moldy, restrain, suffocating.
It makes you not only doubt yourself but totally lose the faith in you.
You feel lost, disconnected, apart, an alien in your life.
It keeps you down, sad, unwillingly to move.
And you get stuck. Even aware of it.
Because unless the enemy within becomes a friend, or at least a frenemy, at times, the effect of this side of the coin will remain the same.
And how to make peace with the enemy within?
Well, I’ve got a plan. 😉
“Life goes on…
Whether you choose to move on and take a chance in the unknown. Or stay behind, locked in the past, thinking of what it could’ve been.”
For any introvert person, being social is a draining thing. Full stop. And this is not related to bad energy around or anything like this. So, don’t take it personal if you aren’t an introvert. Obviously that this can make things even drainer for any introvert but still, it really doesn’t matter how pleasant or unpleasant the experience is, how good vibe or bad vibe a person or a group of people is, socializing it’s always draining. Because interacting with people are draining for us.
And honestly, as far as my experience as an introvert goes, being social virtually is pretty much the same as being social in person. It’s still a draining thing.
At a first glance being social virtually could seem like a good opportunity for us introverts to mingle more easily since apparently we are kind of protected, shielded from different sides of a computer’s screen (or phone/tablet). But the truth is we are not. Because the draining problem isn’t related to shyness but the energy we tend to expend when socializing. It’s all about energy. Therefore, it really doesn’t matter where that socializing thing happens, if it’s in a living room or in a chat room. We will feel drained with this experience, regardless.
And because of that we might need to leave a chat or a party a little earlier than most and get some alone, quiet time to recharge right after that. And for as long as our “introvertness” needs to recover.
Unfortunately or fortunately, socializing is a draining thing that we, introverts can’t skip nowadays since socializing virtually or in person is a big part of our social and professional lives. It’s a must if we wanna keep in touch with friends and family and if we wanna grow professionally. It’s simply impossible don’t incorporate that.
It’s our onus to the bonus. And we try to deal the best we can with it.
And if you want to know more about Introverts, here is a link with other interesting issues about it.