“When some thing you want so bad goes wrong, some times it is the Universe telling you that is not the best for you. But other times, it is the Universe illustrating in living color to you how you keep on sabotaging yourself, how you keep from getting what you truly deserve because you feel afraid and unworthy.”An insight from a distance Reiki practice with other Reiki practitioners.
And this one simple thing is… to rest. Yep, as in laying down, closing your eyes and just let it be. You can even take a nap if you have time for and feel like it. Or you can lay down on the floor on the Savasana (Corpse) pose. All possible.
In any case you should rest. For at least 5 minutes right after Meditating. This seals your practice and make it more powerful, more efficient. This is when you let all the benefits from that particular practice sink in
Just give it a try and see for yourself.
Well, it is entirely up to you. Do you wanna go gray?
Because if you don’t, don’t; if you do, do it. But before you do it, just be aware of this one thing: it is better to go gray when you have something like 80% of your hair gray already. That is when the result of this new hair color will look better and you can evaluate properly if it suits you or not. Before, it can be quite an unfair judgement.
And yes, going gray should be faced just like that: trying a new hair color. Because that is what it is: a new hair color. A natural new hair color. With a real good advantage, I must add: you will not need touch ups ever again. And this is for me an unbeatable advantage.
Plus, it has another huge advantage as a side effect: your hair will look much healthier since you will no longer have dyes and chemicals in your locks. Woo-hoo!
On top of all that, there are a lot women going gray these days and they look amazing. I always thought that men were way more successful in going gray than women, but lately, women have proven me wrong. On Instagram there are plenty of good examples that you can get inspiration and encouragement from. And if that is it what is missing for you to go ahead, than here you may go.
And if you do go gray, don’t forget to keep on taking a good care of your hair. Because, regardless the color, the way your hair looks is the most important thing. Your hair frames your face and especially as we get older, we need a great frame, a frame that has our back. 😉 The color is important but the way your hair looks and shines is too.
Anyways, as I said, going gray is a totally personal decision. For me, up to this moment, going gray is still a nay. I don’t think gray hair suits me. At least not yet. Even with this big advantage of going free from touch ups and the damage it causes waving in front of me. Oh, it is sooooo appealing…
But still a nay.
I started going gray when I was 16. At least that was the age my hairdresser told me I had a few gray hairs in my head. I felt so sad… old… aging… although my skin was wrinkle-free at that time… I was devastated cause I loved my sun kissed dark honey blonde natural color and soon I would have to color that hair… I panicked, but I shouldn’t have. Because for the next 10 years or so I managed to have only a very few gray hairs in my frame. I didn’t have to do anything to conceal it at all up to my late 20s. Then I started to use some semi-permanent dyes and highlights and the whole hair-bangs.
Up to this day, at the age of 4.7 I am not a 100% gray lady. I still just have something like 60% of gray hair, not more. So, it is not that time to consider going gray for me yet anyways.
And if you are like me and doesn’t want to go gray, keep those things in mind to have a great frame to your face: keep your hair in great condition, cut or trim it frequently to keep it strong and try to find ways to spare it from the dyes and chemicals damage. Wear masks, do some treatment for your hair, use good products that work for you, pick a great haircut and most importantly, don’t go for a shade too dark or harsh on you. As we get older we need something softer to frame our faces. So a jet black or even a way too rich chocolate shade can be too much. Just go for a softer shade.
Trust me. It will work better for you. Which shade to go? Only you, your trained hairdresser and the mirror can tell you for sure. Consult them on that.
One of the things I always felt in my core that I needed to work on was to be truly grateful. For every little thing in my life right now and that ever happened to me. Every. Little. Thing. Good. Bad. And The Very Ugly.
In my mind, as a concept, I always got why this is an important thing to bring to our lives, how being and feeling grateful can open a window of prosperity and joy in front of us and the whole zen-bang. Without it, it is like you don’t move as fast as you should.
And you aren’t even on the right direction.
Having understood all that, every time I have tried to actually be and feel grateful I always felt as if I was not really being and feeling as such. It seemed to be something I was just saying but not meaning. Because, let’s face it, how can someone be and feel grateful when shit is happening in full force? And although I have been having some good moments, most of my life lately and so far has fell short in being fulfilling.
So, every time I did one of those exercises to write down a few things I was grateful for every day, I did (with certain level of difficulty but I did) but still, didn’t feel it.
My biggest a-ha moment on that, was a few days ago when one of my beloved Yoga and Reiki Master, Nicole, posted on her Facebook stories a holistic tip: “be thankful for everything in your life. Even for the hard times. Just be thankful. The next time you go for a walk, just say thank you, thank you, thank you all along the way. ” She has been through some shitty moments lately and it was one of those tips she was giving to others but mainly to herself. Those tend to be the real good tips, by the way.
And I just did it as she said. Right after I heard it, the next morning when I went for a walk and I have been doing it every time I remember ever since. Because when I heard it, it spoke to me. It resonate deep in my soul. For the first time, maybe. At that moment, I was in this really dark, cloudy, stormy and windy moment of my life, where hope was running out and a blind faith that everything would be okay, eventually, was the only thing that I had to hold on to and surprisingly I managed to be and feel grateful for all of that. And for the first time I felt as I was meaning.
And that is the key to master this being and feeling grateful for everything deal: meaning it. Deep inside. When you hit that point, it does shine a light in you and this light clears the clouds, brightens the day, stops the wind, takes the storm away.
To be honest, there is no easy way towards it. You just have to keep on practicing your gratitude even when it doesn’t seem real and makes no sense to you. Keep on being and feeling grateful that one day, eventually, you will mean it.
And that will make the whole difference in your life. Hopefully. 🙏 🙌
I don’t remember when a big, stoned index finger ring became my trademark accessory for sure, but it was probably when I noticed that there was a big sun spot on my right index finger. I hate sun spots in general and this one in particular is really big. Argh! So, I decided to wear a huge stoned ring to conceal it. Bingo!
And loved it.
So, because of that I started wearing it all the time. Now after many years it is safe to say that my index finger ring is my trademark accessory. Of the moment.
Okay, I could add to this trademark list an arm-party with some friendship bracelets that right now I am not wearing that much, but for the past 5 years or so never left my wrists. Same I could say for my toe ring. Yep, in my 20s and early 30s I did wear one. All. The. Time.
Just like me you can also have your trademark accessory. Or accessories. Because it can be a set of accessories, like a whole arm-party, for instance or a combo of arm-party and neck-party. Up to you and your style. And just like me you can change it over time. No problem. And it can be basically any accessory that speaks to you, that you feel comfortable wearing and that kind that feels so you.
And it is a good idea to pick one that you can wear it day to night, Fall to Summer, non stop, so in any occasion you can rely on it. Or at least almost all the time, so it is something that people around you would immediately associate with you. Like Jackie O. and her oversize sunnies, for instance. Because when you wear something that often, it sticks in every body’s memory.
To pick your trademark accessory, think of a piece of jewelry or a whole combo of jewelry (like multi-layered necklace, a ring or two, an arm party and earrings), something to wear in your hair (or even the way you style your hair, in a bun or a ponytail) or something you wear in your head like a turban or a headband, a belt, a shoe (like boots or ballerina flats), a scarf, big sunnies, a lipstick color… It can be anything, really.
You don’t have to pick just one and stick with just that one. For instance, if you pick an index finger ring to wear all the time, you can have more than one of its kind. However, if you want to have just one to rock it in any occasion with any look, then go for it.
And something simple like this can actually help you to build, anchor and show off your style. In style. A no-brainer style. That can be quite handy on those times that you are not very keen to think about how to accessorize this or that look and yet you will, automatically. Like in your menopausal years…
At least for me, it was very helpful to have my huge, stoned index ring around in my meno years. That is how I kept accessorized after losing my mojo for it. Oh, yeah, I lost my mojo to accessorize. And in the past I was crazy about it. It was one of my favorite parts of dressing up (or down). Still, I haven’t recovered my mojo for it yet so I still rely on my trademark formula for accessories. For now. But I must confess that lately I have been inspired to work on that a little bit. That is one of the reasons I started to post on Instagram (you can follow me @fabafter47). There you can follow my attempt to bring my fashion passion back to life.
And how about you? Do you have a trademark accessory? Let me know below.👇🏼