Style Clue 2: “Make sure you can easily see everything you have in your closet, drawers, all your clothes and accessories. Because if you don’t, you will probably forget about it and therefore will not wear it as often, if ever.”

What To Wear On A First Date To Feel Confident And At Ease When Menopausal

And the answer to that question is very simple: something you love and feel comfortable wearing, something that favors and suits your body, skin tone and style, something that you feel good and confident on it, something that let the best version of yourself shine. And nope, you don’t need to wear anything on trend or contemporary. Just pick an outfit that resonates you, your taste, your style. That is always ON trend by the way. Because wearing yourself is never outdated.

Ever.

I wore this going-to-yoga-later look in one of my first dates. I had a morning coffee date with a guy and later on I was going to my yoga class so why not? Plus I do feel comfortable and myself when I am in leggings, boots and a flowy top.

Another thing you have to have in mind when choosing your outfit is where you are going to. Is it a casual date like at a coffee shop or at a simple restaurant? Or is it in a fancy restaurant or at the Opera? Hehehe

In any case, dress accordingly.

And no, you don’t need to go for sexy, revealing clothes, unless, of course, that is your style. Otherwise, as I said, pick an outfit that resonates you. After all, this is also a good way to introduce yourself to the person you are going to meet.

And no, loungewear is not a possibility. Even knowing that if you read my post on loungewear your options will be fab, even if loungewear is your favorite thing to be in, especially in the comfy category, even if loungewear represents you that much.

This is a time to look for an outfit in another section of your wardrobe. Okay?

It is also a good idea to wear something cool with natural fabrics and breathable if the weather is hot or think about layering if the weather is cold instead of wearing something warm that you can’t remove. A coat, a jacket or a cardigan, a piece that you can take off easily if by any chance hot flushes arrive unannounced. And you know that is exactly what usually happens.

And speaking of hot flushes, if they do show up, there is no need to feel embarrassed about it. It is something that is part of life and the phase you are currently in. Embrace it. So, no need to panic. You can own your hot flush moment and approach naturally or even with a sense of humor.

Or if for you it is not comfortable at all to deal with it with openness at this level and especially with someone you just met, then excuse yourself and go to the restroom and wait till it goes away. And you know it does go away. Eventually. You can take this opportunity and freshen you up a bit after you cool down. No biggie.

Or if yours are that type that shows up all the time or lasts way too long, order some cool beverage to sip and cool down. Or even consider to add to your accessories repertoire a stylish fan. Take with you all the time and use whenever you feel you need to.

If by any chance you are dealing with urinary incontinence you can wear a proper pad for it. No problem. And bet on a flowy dress or a flowy skirt so you don’t need to worry about it.

Below I picked some looks to go on a casual Spring Summer date so you can have an idea of what to wear on your first date. Simple, easy breezy looks because you don’t have to complicate to look fab.

By the way, you don’t need to buy anything new for that matter. You can shop your own closet for the look. After all, your closet should be well equipped with clothes and accessories that you looooove, feel yourself, comfy and the whole she-bangs, right?

Anyways, here are the looks:

Photos: Net-A-Porter.
Photos: Net-A-Porter.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.

Dresses are a great option. If you are a dress kind of woman. You can pick a feel good dress, with a hem that is comfortable for you. Around the knee (just above or just below) tends to be a good, safe bet for most women.

A shirt dress, a sweater dress, a wrap dress, a flowy dress or an A-line dress are all great options. You can always dress up or down accordingly.

You can pick one with a solid color, neutral or colorful or a printed one. It is up to you and your style.

Accessorize as you feel up to. Pick your shoes and a perfect clutch or bag and you are ready to go.

And if you want to give a more winter vibe to them you can add thick stockings and boots and a cardigan and/or a coat with yours.

Jumpsuits are also an option but not very practical to go the bathroom. If you are going way too much to the bathroom these days, it might be a good idea to consider something else like a dress or the combo pants/skirts and shirts/blouses.

And if your go-to-outfit is sleeveless you can always add a layer to it like a cropped jacket, a jacket or a cardigan. If you want to.

Photos: NordstromRack

Or not.

Photos: NordstromRack.

A simple duo like jeans and a shirt with boots will do it. Especially but not only if the shirt or coat or jacket has something out of the ordinary. It can even be a bedazzled or shiny fabric. Or an out of ordinary pants, like a cropped one.

But still, if they are pretty basic you can always add up some bazinga with accessories like necklaces, cuffs, bracelets, rings…

Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: Net-A-Porter.
Photos: Net-A-Porter.

Or not. It is up to you and your style.

Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NordstromRack.
Photos: NeimanMarcus.
Photos: NordstromRack

Of course that you can pick a pants that looks good on you like a straight or bootcut instead of a slim one. Actually, you should do that.

BTW: you don’t need to wear high heel shoes. You can wear flats (sandals or ballerina). But with a dressier vibe. Forget about flip flops, crocs and other way too casual shoes. Give your casual a slightly upgrade.

Of course that if you want to wear heels you can. It is up to you and how comfortable you are on them. You just should pick a heeled shoes with a heel as high as you can walk gracefully on them.

And speaking of heels… lately there are plenty of heeled shoes with a thick and not so high heel that are way easier to deal with. And they look pretty good. And even stylish.

And yes, if you are gonna reveal your feet make sure it is presentable. You don’t need to wear nail polish but your feet and nails have to be well-taken-care-of. They should be in a good shape. If they are not, consider shoes that are not that revealing like boots, ballerina flats or pumps.

Pick a nice lingerie set (panties and bra) that looks gorgeous and so you. A set that makes you feel confident, attractive and comfortable even if you have no intention to show him what you are wearing under on that first date. A set that is the right one for the outfit you pick to wear. Because it is pointless to wear a bandeau top if a strapless bra makes you feel insecure and uncomfortable. Remember: you should wear something that makes you feel comfortable, something that has your back.

Makeup and hair are also part of the look. Make sure your hair looks good, healthy looking. If you are having one of those bad hair days you can always wear it in a bun.

Makeup doesn’t need to be professional. It can even be a basic no makeup makeup look. But consider at least a good foundation or primer (or both) with a long-lasting effect, some lipstick, healthy glowing blush and mascara. And lots of moisturizer. Because hydrated skin is key to look amazing, regardless.

Don’t forget to carry blush and lipstick to reapply. And a good idea is to carry those absorbing, blotting papers to keep the oil and sweat away-ish.

And yes, you can set a whole look for a first date and repeat it exactly for any first date that will come ahead, if the dress code is the same, obviously. There is no problem in repeating looks. You know that, right?

Or you can pick the outfit and accessorize differently on the other first dates that will come. The idea here is to set a look or the outfit with the accessories alternatives for your first dates in advance. And yes, you can do it. And for different occasions and seasons. So, when your first date comes (and it will come), this is gonna be a no-brainer, already set look. One thing less to worry about when you get yourself a date.

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Why Is A Good Idea To Have A Great LoungeWear Wardrobe

In any age, your loungewear clothes should be picked as any other clothes in your wardrobe: carefully curated to suit your body type, personal style, lifestyle and taste. And equally immaculated: no buttons missing, no holes, no discolouration, no worn out pieces. Because they do matter. Even if you live alone. And no, it is not because we never know who can knock at our doors (although that would be a good pro)… but because you deserve to present yourself in your best version all the time, even when there is no one around but yourself. Because you are worthy and deserve it. Full stop.

My loungewear jumpsuit that goes easily from my couch to the market.

With that in mind, picking good pieces to lounge at your house is a must. And here I am not implying that you should buy expensive, high quality, fashion forward clothes. Not at all. Basic, comfortable, affordable and yet good looking and good to be in clothes that totally flatter you and your body type will do it. Think about pieces that you can stay comfy at home but if you need you could go to the market nearby to buy groceries or walk your dog at the park or even go to the mall and rock it. Think of pieces that look good on you, colorwise, shapewise, modelwise.

And no, you don’t need a lot of pieces, just a few to cover both cold and warm weather, perfect pieces to wear them off. And when they get to the point they need replacement, do so. Because the idea here is to have clothes in the perfect shape to wear in and out.

Here is a list of how a good loungewear wardrobe could be:

  • 3 short sleeves tees or any short sleeves tops.
  • 3 long sleeves tees or any long sleeves tops.
  • 2 sweaters.
  • 2 cardigans or any other coat.
  • 2 comfy pants like leggings or a straight leg pants.
  • 1 flowy jumpsuit.
  • 3 dresses.

If you don’t like any of the pieces on the list, you don’t need to include them. For instance, if dresses are not your thing, you don’t need to include them. Instead, add more pants and tees. If you like shirts, tunics, boho blouses (or dresses) you can add them as well. This is just a very impersonal list I made above. Make it personal to you and your style. Please.

And yes, if you dye your hair at home or do anything that could bleach, stain or ruin your clothes, you can have two set of clothes for that activity. Those clothes can be the damage ones. No problem. For any other activities, make sure your clothes are impeccable.

Here there is a Pinterest board with good ideas for a good and versatile loungewear wardrobe. Some of the looks featured on this board are already outdoors look so you can have the feeling how it is a loungewear that you can go out with.

And this approach to loungewear should be embraced especially but not only for us, women going through any phase of Menopause. Cause more than ever, the loungewear wardrobe will matter since lounging is gonna be our favorite estate, right? And if you build your loungewear wardrobe with that in mind, you will not need to change your clothes if you have to interrupt your lounging to go out for a quick ride. You will be ready to go. And in style.

How To Build A Stylish No-Brainer Wardrobe Lesson 1: Pick Your TradeMark Accessory

I don’t remember when a big, stoned index finger ring became my trademark accessory for sure, but it was probably when I noticed that there was a big sun spot on my right index finger. I hate sun spots in general and this one in particular is really big. Argh! So, I decided to wear a huge stoned ring to conceal it. Bingo!

Me and my Eye-Of-The-Tiger Index Ring.

And loved it.

So, because of that I started wearing it all the time. Now after many years it is safe to say that my index finger ring is my trademark accessory. Of the moment.

Okay, I could add to this trademark list an arm-party with some friendship bracelets that right now I am not wearing that much, but for the past 5 years or so never left my wrists. Same I could say for my toe ring. Yep, in my 20s and early 30s I did wear one. All. The. Time.

Just like me you can also have your trademark accessory. Or accessories. Because it can be a set of accessories, like a whole arm-party, for instance or a combo of arm-party and neck-party. Up to you and your style. And just like me you can change it over time. No problem. And it can be basically any accessory that speaks to you, that you feel comfortable wearing and that kind that feels so you.

And it is a good idea to pick one that you can wear it day to night, Fall to Summer, non stop, so in any occasion you can rely on it. Or at least almost all the time, so it is something that people around you would immediately associate with you. Like Jackie O. and her oversize sunnies, for instance. Because when you wear something that often, it sticks in every body’s memory.

To pick your trademark accessory, think of a piece of jewelry or a whole combo of jewelry (like multi-layered necklace, a ring or two, an arm party and earrings), something to wear in your hair (or even the way you style your hair, in a bun or a ponytail) or something you wear in your head like a turban or a headband, a belt, a shoe (like boots or ballerina flats), a scarf, big sunnies, a lipstick color… It can be anything, really.

You don’t have to pick just one and stick with just that one. For instance, if you pick an index finger ring to wear all the time, you can have more than one of its kind. However, if you want to have just one to rock it in any occasion with any look, then go for it.

And something simple like this can actually help you to build, anchor and show off your style. In style. A no-brainer style. That can be quite handy on those times that you are not very keen to think about how to accessorize this or that look and yet you will, automatically. Like in your menopausal years…

At least for me, it was very helpful to have my huge, stoned index ring around in my meno years. That is how I kept accessorized after losing my mojo for it. Oh, yeah, I lost my mojo to accessorize. And in the past I was crazy about it. It was one of my favorite parts of dressing up (or down). Still, I haven’t recovered my mojo for it yet so I still rely on my trademark formula for accessories. For now. But I must confess that lately I have been inspired to work on that a little bit. That is one of the reasons I started to post on Instagram (you can follow me @fabafter47). There you can follow my attempt to bring my fashion passion back to life.

And how about you? Do you have a trademark accessory? Let me know below.๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ