A way of living, that is what happiness is. It is not that shiny happy place you need to reach to actually experience happiness.
Happiness it is taking a moment to recognize that you are enough.
That you are grateful for everything you have and have experienced so far.
It’s that sense of being content with who you are and what you have.
It’s the way you chose to see and face whatever happens to you.
It’s being able to enjoy every strawberry (or chocolate or whatever you like) every time you come across one no matter the “weather”.
It’s dancing in the rain and running under the burning sun.
It’s keeping your serenity having a ride in the dark side of the moon.
And your eyes and heart opened to welcome and embrace all your experiences.
Learn from them.
And let them go.
Them and anything else.
It’s letting your life flows.
And go along with.
Breathe in. And out. All the way through.
It’s being you.
Self-caring for your self.
Being kind to others.
Being empathic. Compassionate.
It’s understanding what tolerance really means.
It’s being surrounded by people you love and appreciate every moment of it.
And letting them know, feel this love and appreciation.
It’s being able to understand (and enjoy) the fact that life has its ups and downs, its beautiful and ugly days and you can’t and shouldn’t park your truck in just one station. This is part of what life is all about. And will ever be.
And going straight to the point using a cliché to illustrate it (but a so true one), here is why self-care matters and should be a priority in your list:
Do you remember that safety rule on airplanes regarding the oxygen masks? If by any chance they drop down in front of you on a flight you should put your own mask first and then help somebody else to put their own if needed, even if it is your child who is that someone? And you should do this because if you don’t take care of yourself first you might end up passing out and possibly dying because of it. Would you like to pass out in a situation like that, especially with your child at risk by your side? Of course not. So to prevent that you should take care of yourself first and then help your child. This way you will not be at risk of fainting.
This rule totally makes sense in an airplane but for some weird reason when we apply it to our daily lives it suddenly doesn’t. We think it’s a selfish act, a bad, less thing to do when in fact it’s not.
Because just as it happens in an airplane emergency, in our daily lives if we don’t self-care for ourselves first we are not gonna be able to help ourselves or even others too. Due to the same exact reason: We will not have what it takes to do so. Not properly. Not fully. We need oxygen, fuel, clarity, energy to be able to function, to do something for others without compromising our act and our own physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually integrity. And because of that we need to put our self-care mask first, refuel ourselves in order to be able to help others, to take a good care of them.
And there are so many ways to self-care for yourself, to refuel you…
Just sitting down quietly and listening to what you really, really wants and needs.
And go for it.
Breathe deep and properly many times throughout the day.
Do some yoga.
Practice some exercise.
Go for a walk.
Eat foods that nourish you.
Take care of your health.
Make sure you are sleeping well and enough.
Having your back.
Take a bubbly warm bath (or a super cold shower if that is what you need).
Go for a full body massage.
Take a day off to be in and rest.
Sleep a full day.
Take a resting vacation.
Enjoy that cup of hot tea. Hot chocolate. Coffee.
Be out in nature.
Dance in the rain.
Swim in the ocean.
Say as many NOs as you think you need to.
Stand up for yourself in a loving way.
Be opened to love and be loved.
Be surrounded by people you love.
Learn something new.
Rest unapologetically every time you need to.
Just chose whatever activity refuels your energy, joy, yourself. Plan that. Make time for it. Daily. Like you make time to brush your teeth or to work. Do with an intention. And allow yourself to be there, experiencing it, living it, breathing it. Just you with yourself. And loved ones.
Besides the oxygen mask effect, it is only taking a good care of yourself that you can be fully you and have the proper energy to offer the world that special gift that only you are equipped to do so. Otherwise… you won’t be able to. And that is, indeed, a bloody selfishness thing to do.
It has been a while since my last post here and I would love to say this was because my life at this side of the computer screen was pretty busy and exciting. But it wasn’t the case. I was just going through one of those moments when there is this gray cloud above your head surrounding you everywhere you go. Those moments when every little thing you do seems to be wrong or not working. Not the beast place to be, but hey, it is part of being alive. It happens as much as s**t happens. And all we can do is try to make a good sense out of it. Try to learn something or THAT thing that made you go through this.
Breathe. Deep. In and out. All the way through.
Practice some thing spiritual. In my case Kundalini.
Dig deep in.
Be opened to listen to yourself.
And embrace whatever it comes.
It also helps to face it with a sense of humour.
Or a sense of adventure.
Because it is an adventure. To the other side. To the shadow-ish side.
A side that is also a part of who we are, even if we don’t want it to be. Really hard.
And if this is the case I have got news for you: this is THE thing that is keeping you stuck. THE thing that probably is sabotaging all your attempts to live a full life, to be you and feel you. To accomplish THAT thing you are so desperately wants.
Don’t fight that part of who you are. You don’t want him/her as your enemy.
Or at least let him/her talk and listen.
Sometimes that is all she/he/they want.
And if it’s not, being there, opened to listen to a honest answer will get you to figure out what you need to do to move on. 😉🌸
If you wear nail polish, especially if it stays on your nails for longer than it should be, you probably noticed some white stains/spots on them when you remove the color. Been there, done that.
And although they look nasty they are pretty harmless. And with a substantial amount of moisturizer they will go away completely overnight. Not kidding.
See? Actually, to see it better, click on each photo and there you go.
My go to moisturizer to address it is Bepantol Baby cream. But as far as I know you can put any moisturizer on them and voilà, problem solved.
Usually I like to give some break for my nails between nail polishes, like at least a night. Sometimes a day or two. Just so can they “breathe” freely.
Again, this is just an effective treatment for those spots/stains caused by the nail polish not those white spots that can sometimes appear out of nowhere in our nails. Here there is an article about them and their possible causes (that includes allergies, mineral deficiency, fungal infection and nail injury).